Is physical pain just a pain in the arse? Here are a few simple steps to help deal with pain

Last weekend there was an article in the “Sir Edmund” from the Volkskrant newspaper referring to a staggering 2.4 million people living in The Netherlands who are suffering from chronic pain.

The problem with pain is that it is painful. However, pain has a very important function, it protects us from hurting ourselves any further. If you put your hand on a hot stove the intense pain ensures that you remove your hand from the danger, thus avoiding further injury. And that is just one of the innumerable pain signals that your body sends, each one providing particular information as to the urgency of the action required to keep you healthy & safe. In the case of muscular pain & tension this is something that many people deal with on a daily basis, yet the urgency is not always present.

So pain is the messenger sent out to help us. To warn you, to keep you in balance, to keep you healthy and to keep you safe. The only problem is is that we want to kill the messenger, with such things as “pain-killers”. Let’s face it pain isn’t pleasant and it is never convenient. But what if, instead of killing the messenger you sat down and listened to the messenger and payed attention to the messenger? Here below are a few steps that can help you better deal with physical pain & tension.

How to deal with & release pain

Step 1 Observing – by sitting down quietly and taking a few minutes to direct your attention to the pain you are experiencing and just simply observing what is present, without judgement and without an agenda or the need to change the situation.

Step 2 Welcoming – once your attention is directed to the pain, try welcoming the pain. As I mentioned pain is there to help you and not to hinder you. It’s your body’s way of saying I need some attention here. So try even to be thankful that your body wants to help. This may take some practise

Step 3 Listening – after welcoming the pain, stay sitting quietly observing the pain. See if you notice any change in what you are feeling. If you are truly listening and not just saying to yourself this is stupid or I’d wish the pain would just go away or what am I doing here, then perhaps you may notice the pain has lightened or shifted. If this is the case then you have successfully communicated with your pain. By doing this regularly you will perhaps notice a change in how you feel and the pain you are experiencing.

These steps above are taken out of a technique which I regularly use with my clients and with great success. If you are interested in learning the full technique then please contact me via Please note that places are very limited as I only work with small groups.

I would love to hear your comments and experience with these steps.